The word “boss” has a lot of bad baggage. It's so bad that many people don't understand why we use it. We use it because, first, bosses are an everyday reality, and second, we know how to turn gifted and talented kids into great bosses. Bosses that understand how to facilitate the success of the people who work for them. This strongly implies that an important and common reason that there are so many bad bosses is that they just don't have the intellectual horse power that it takes to run a team well.
A great boss raises the value of everything, starting with the people in the team. The team becomes a community. The best bosses create the vision of what the team's mission is. The stronger the sense of mission within the team, the more powerful the whole team is.
If a child has a gift, they deserve to remain in control of that gift. Given the way the grownup world works, that means the gifted and talented child has to be the boss, in the very least, over the gifts and talents. In practical terms that means figuring out how to join a team that will allow the young, gifted adult to retain self-determination, or to form a team that will support the mission that the gifts demand. Without that level of control, it will be difficult for the young adult to make positive contributions to the world.
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Be the Boss by 12 is a series of ebooks designed to help any gifted and talented child grow into a successful adult. The gifted child can add the skills of leadership to other gifts and talents. Such kids can build social habits that make school a richer experience. In their futures, the powers of leadership enable the gifted child to engage future decision-makers on a peer-to-peer footing to negotiate great career paths and compensation.
Erik Lenderman: ...And so, these are small, very bite-sized chapters, just a couple pages, so that the kids can really, easily process them, and they're step-by-step. I want to talk a little bit now about Chapter Two. We're with Tom Meylan here, former NASA scientist, Ph.D. in astrophysics. “Become a Great Boss;” so Chapter One, we're talking about “It's Good to Be the Boss.” Chapter Two, “Become a Great Boss, and Fix a Piece of the World.” Tom, can you tell us, what's going on in this chapter? What are people going to take away from this?
Tom Meylan: Well, part of it is motivational, right? I mean, you want to give a kid a vision of being part of something big, and maybe making a name for herself, or however you want to put that. But the main point is that they're going to inherit this world. And if people who are able to bring better problems solving skills to the world's problems don't show up, the world's problems are just going to get bigger and bigger and bigger. And I make that point. I don't make it in dire tones, like, “Boy, kid, if you don't apply your brains to the world's problems, then it's all over by your generation.” It's not what it's about. But it is about the upside. It's like, “You could be a player. You know, if you took your smarts, not merely your smarts as this gifted and talented future engineer, or future flute player, or whatever, but, as someone who could apply that same intelligence, that same brain power, into taking leadership roles where ever they happen to show up...” Power vacuums occur all over the place. And all you have to do is wait for that awkward pause in a room, and all you have to do is say, “I'll take care of that. I'll make that happen.” ...and you're in charge! I mean, it happens all over in socials circles. It happens in business.
Erik Lenderman: So, Tom, what would be in your mind the key take away for people to learn that skill? Is it, in particular, how to work in meeting environments, group environments? What's the take-away you want people to know here?
Tom Meylan: The big thing, and the whole book is explicitly about this, is about reformulating your habits, your personal habits, the way you think about yourself, and the way you behave in front of other people, so that this mindset of “I am the Boss!” ...You project that, and people start looking at you as someone who...“They're acting like the boss; they probably are.” I outline nine specific non-verbal cues that people are just automatically looking for when they're looking for somebody who should be leading this group or this business. So, the habits that you change so that you interact with people “like you're the boss,” get them to buy into “you're the boss.”
So, then you have this whole other thing that is, being the boss actually means managing and changing the habits of the people who are working for you, so that they become increasingly efficient. And because they become more successful, they actually build a sense of loyalty to you because being a success is a whole lot better than not. And they can say, “Geez, Erik taught me how to be successful. I don't care what this guy's doing, I'm working for him.” And loyalty is one of these key things that you build up by learning how to change habits correctly in your organization.
Erik Lenderman: That's great, that's great! So I definitely want to make sure that we come back to, at some point soon in the next videos, what those nine body cues are!
Instead of simply reading the pages, I also imagined applying them to my own life. Not only did it make me understand the text more, but on some level to understand myself. 12-year-old from Northern Virginia
The gifts will mostly take care of themselves.
Build emotional toughness
into the child's inner dialog.
Teach the child to project
the social cues of "The Boss."